How to find your girl gang

I had two friends a year ago, but one of them betrayed me. After that, I only had one friend left, so I went on a bit of a journey to find new friends and figure out who I am.

I think when you grow up, you are a certain type of person and then life happens. You move away, you start a career, you have a family, and sometimes people in your old life don't resonate with your current life. 

So, if this sounds like you right now and you feel like you're losing friends or you've never had a big group of girlfriends but you want one and you're ready to find a tribe that really gets you and you get them, then keep on reading!

Because in this blog I'm going to talk about why it's cool to have a girl gang, what I've learned about my girl gang and HOW to FIND a girl gang!

Before we begin, the truth is you don't need anyone else to validate your worth. You are as special and deserving of love and companionship as anyone else. And if you are feeling lonely, there are plenty of things you can do to make yourself feel better without a girl gang. 

3 reasons why I love a girl gang

1. A girl gang is a supportive system. 

Life can be hard, and it's nice to have a group of friends who have your back no matter what. Whether you're going through a breakup, starting a new job, or just having a bad day, a girl gang will be there to listen and give you advice. And when you're celebrating and going through something amazing, your girl gang will be the first ones to cheer you on.

2. They keep you accountable.

My girl gang keeps me accountable because it's easy to make excuses when we don't have anyone holding us to our words. With a girl gang in your corner, you'll stay on track with your goals. So, whether you're trying to eat a little bit healthier, get out of debt, stop smoking, or try some new styles and outfits, your girlfriends are there to keep you focused and motivated. I love that part about a girl gang because I often have doubts about myself.

I have my girls there to support me and remind me that I am a unicorn and a queen. And that's what I want for you!

3. It makes life a little bit more fun.

Having a group of supportive women in your life does make it a little bit more interesting and fun because you can go on adventures with them. You can have a small group discussion about a certain subject. A book club can be started. You just feel like you're part of something bigger than just going to work, taking care of your kids, or walking your dog.

How do we find a tribe that's going to work for you? 

I have four ways how you can do it, and I'm going to share with you my results and why it's going to work for you as well. 

1. Join Bumble Friends 

Bumble Friends is an app. It is also a dating app, but there is a friendship side to it. One day I was feeling really lonely. I felt like all my friends were dropping off and I didn't understand what was going on. I was doing so well in my career. I was doing really well in my relationship. But my friendship circle just started shifting. 

And one day Jason said to me, Why don't you join Bumble friends? I downloaded Bumble friends and it was really weird because you have to set up a profile, put down your interest, and pick a photo that's worthy enough for a friendship to swipe on and then you go ahead and you swipe on other women and you see what their interests are and what they look like and you match and then you chat, right? 

I found that there were a lot of women that were looking for a 5:00 AM hiking club. There were a lot of women looking for a 9:00 PM cocktail drinking buddy. There were women looking for other mothers that had just gotten out of a relationship and they wanted to connect with other mums. 

It was really cool to see the difference in what other people were seeking and I actually met one of my soul sisters, Hayley. We were looking for someone who wanted to go for coffee and walks and we were both business owners wanting to have biz chats. She had just moved from Darwin and she was looking for her girl gang and her whole vibe was just my vibe. 

Another thing I want to mention is I actually met another beautiful soul sister, Chantel. So, Chantel, we met at this meditation program that we did and we were across the room from each other. That's as far as it went. We didn't talk on the day, we looked at each other, we smiled. And that was it. And then a few weeks later, a friend of mine posted a story of her doing human design reading. And I started following her because I loved her vibe, I loved her energy. 

And then boom, she messaged me saying, Oh my God, you were the girl in the orange dress, weren't you at that meditation program? And I was like, Oh my God, what are the chances that we are aligned with each other? I do remember on the day looking across from her and thinking, I really liked her vibe, I liked her energy.

So don't underestimate the power of online connections because right now that is life. Everything is digital, everything is online. Put yourself out there on Bumble Friends or look online on Instagram, start following like-minded women and like-minded people in your field and just reach out to them. 

2. Get more involved in your community

There are plenty of opportunities to get out there and find your tribe. For example, have a look at local events and start attending them. One of my other good friends is really good at doing this. She will find a list of what is happening in Brisbane and she'll just go and book in.

So have a look at your local events wherever you live and just go and attend them. Go book a class, rock up. It can be uncomfortable if you're not used to doing things like that, or it can be the best thing ever and you can find your soul sister there. 

And I really encourage you to try it because even if you don't find a group of women or your best friend, you will find a new passion that you probably didn't even think about. So the opportunities are seriously endless. There are so many ways how you can create different pathways in your life and create success, and I highly encourage you to try this. 

Go on Facebook and look up local female community meet-up groups. There is someone I know that does this very well. She just moved to Brisbane and she signed up for the Brisbane community page. And women were just posting random little events like roller skating through the park. 

Look for those keywords on Facebook and you will find groups that are made so that you can go in there and see what women are doing and then attend those groups. And then let's say that you do that and you attend these groups. Then if there was one person in the group that you really vibed with, then just grab her number and then invite her for coffee. 

3. Join a fitness class 

This is really great if you want to start losing a little extra weight but also it's so much fun when you start working out with other people and you meet friends along the way. F45 is actually really good for this because they pair you up with someone and you do end up sticking with the same people and you follow a little bit of a routine.

So that is probably a good start if you do want to put yourself out there and be paired up and hopefully meet your soul sister. But any sort of fitness group is always a great idea. And the personal trainers are really good at making their community feel like a place where they can get that support. They can be themselves, they can also work out while having connections along the way. And I think that is just so beautiful. 

So I used to know this girl a while ago who did this and she signed up for the gym and there was a program that they were running, it was like a six-week program and she put herself through it. She was so nervous and so shy, but she did it. And on day one, the girls that signed up were just as nervous and just as shy as her.

So how beautiful is that, that you get to be there knowing that they're probably just as nervous and maybe you can be the reason why they speak up or they make a friend as well? How cool is that thought?

And that's the whole purpose of this blog is that when you put yourself out there starting with one thing, it can lead you to more opportunities, more ideas, more networking, seeing what other women are interested in, and then going and doing that.

If you are someone who is not quite ready to take the plunge and join an in-person group, there are so many gorgeous ONLINE communities waiting for you. And the women in those communities are also in the same boat. 

I know what it was like to have no friends.

I know what it was like to feel alone.

I know what it was like to see other women in beautiful groups and have beautiful friendships, and I had no one. 

That is why I designed my own online group! 

The outfit edits membership :) 

When you are having one of those days and you are in that change room and you are not feeling good about yourself, you have my group on standby waiting to cheer you on.

And our women are spectacular.

Honestly, this community of women is just way bigger than what I expected it to be, and it's going to be even bigger.

It's going to be an empire. It's so supportive and I want that feeling for you because every single day when I step inside my community, I see the comments back and forth from the other women. I feel the love, I feel the guidance. I feel the connection and I think in a time like we are in right now, we need more of that. We need more positivity, we need more friendships, and we need more connection. 

There's a really good quote that I follow or read somewhere and it said, Insanity is living the same life day by day and expecting different results. When I read that, I thought, that is so true. 

If we want different results in our lives, if we want to go out there and find a gorgeous group of girls that can support us or you want to go and find a new partner and you're ready to go dating or you want to go find your personal style, but you don't take the steps to do it, you're always going to live in the same world, the same round hog day, the same feeling of what you currently feel right now. That's what I love about a girl gang, is because when you are not getting that support from yourself or from those that are in your life, you do get that support from your girl gang.