Overcoming the fear of trying on new clothes
I'm really excited about this topic because I want to talk about how to deal with the fear of trying on new styles and how to overcome this!
Before we even try on an outfit, our minds make pictures of how it will look on us. Since our imaginations are so powerful, we convince ourselves that it would never look good or that it would not be a good fit for our body.
It makes up these false stories.
Our minds are so in control of us that we forget to just pick outfits for fun, for the experiment, for a sense of exploration.
We've stopped playing with fashion and made it seem so serious. Just like another job. So, the other day when I was styling with my friend, I said, "Let's just play." Let's just pick out outfits for fun, not to buy, but to style.
And guess what happened?
She found some pretty awesome outfits! Outfits that she would have never thought to try on.
Because that's the reality.
When you let go of the idea that shopping and finding clothes have to be perfect, you actually end up having a great time!
You're no longer in a rush.
And you're no longer forcing yourself. (PRESSURE)
Instead, you're giving yourself plenty of time to try on new clothes.
Because when you're in a rush, or feeling anxious, and hoping against hope that everything fits, you end up projecting that energy out onto the outfit. So no wonder why you feel blah in that changeroom!
I want you to take a step back. I want you to really look at this as a bit of a game, a bit of a challenge, a bit of a fun opportunity to take yourself shopping, take yourself on a date and explore new styles.
Instead of going to your usual brands and going for the usual tee and jeans, I challenge you to pick outfits that you are drawn to, but you would never in a million years have picked up.
What are those pieces?
Go and try it and then see how you feel and have fun with it.
Take this Dotti dress I wore the other day as an example. The dress was short, covered in pink flowers, and featured side-baring cutouts. My thoughts were "girl, your rolls are going to be seen" and this made me extremely self-conscious in the past when it came to wearing clothes with such a cut.
BUT!
The dress fit me so well that I was surprised by how much I had imagined what I would look like compared to what I actually looked like. I looked great, loved it, and felt so good that I wore the dress out of the dressing room. I bought the dress, wore it out, and looked amazing in it for the rest of the day. I got so many compliments as well. Then, a woman asked me about that style in an Instagram message. She told me, "I've always loved this style of dress, but I've been so afraid to wear it because I have curves. When I see it on you, I really want to try it out for myself." BOOM - That's the power of positive influence.
So, what do you think?
Is it time to learn how to overcome these fears so you can become that girl that others look up to?
If so, keep reading and let's get ready to start styling girlfriend....
So how do I overcome these fears?
I Try it on
I legit prove my point. Because right now I am all up in my head that I actually don't even have the evidence. I can't really say anything until I have proven my point. AND I mean... really proven my point.
I go out and try the style on in many different brands, in many different colours, in many different silhouettes and shapes.
Because if we limit ourselves to just that one brand, and it didn't work out, you then go straight into thinking "Oh, well, it's me. I'm never, ever trying again."
You've just let that one piece of fabric control how you feel about yourself!!!
That is not the vibe.
That is not what we want.
If you can try on the same style 5 different times from different brands and shapes, then you can confirm that it wasn't the right match. And that is totally fine as well. The credit is the fact that you even tried.
Whenever something doesn't fit, I let it go and I look at it in a different way
Something that has really helped me and helped my styling clients is that I tell them this, whenever something doesn't fit, you imagine the next girl walking in, grabbing the same item, trying it on and it fits her, you've just made her day. This person that's just walking out with high vibes, feeling amazing because she found the item that was meant for her.
SO LET IT GO SIS!
And look at it in a different way.
Look at it in a way that this item was not meant for me because it was meant for her. Someone's going to walk in and buy this and feel like an absolute queen and that's friggen amazing.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and start seeing things in a more positive, empowering way. I don't want your fear of trying out new clothes and styles to keep you from looking and feeling your best in the future.
And remember, the energy is that "I'm going to give myself time to play and have fun and get out of my comfort zone. I'm going to go inside, grab a few different pieces, and just put them together with a smile on my face and see what happens."
Then let it go :)
I also know that the intention is not to buy, the intention is to style
When we go in with a styling plan and we're having fun, we actually end up buying and finding pieces. Whereas if you go shopping with the intention to find the perfect pair of jeans, you put SO much pressure on yourself!
If you're afraid of the unknown and what other people might think of you, I have to ask you: what do you think of yourself?
First, work on your mindset.
Tell yourself, I am awesome. I am confident. I'm going to go outside. I'm trying things out. I am having fun. I'm going to give it a try and see what happens.
The truth is, that's it! The real secret is to simply act and then shift your mind for the better.
